Jul 21 2017 Happy Or Unhappy See The Differences In Your Life

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What are the differences between happy people and unhappy people? Of course, it should be very obvious: happy people

are happy while  unhappy people are unhappy, right? Well,that is correct. But, we want to know what happy people do

differently, so I have put together a list of things that happy people do differently than unhappy people.

1. Love vs. Fear

Well, I can tell you for sure that those people who are really happy, fear less and love a lot more. They see each

moment, each challenge, each person as an opportunity to discover more about themselves and the world around them.

2. Acceptance vs. Resistance 

Happy people understand that you can’t really change a situation by resisting it, but you can definitely change it

by accepting that it is there and by understanding that there might be a reason for its existence.

When something unpleasant happens to them, they don’t try to fight it (they know that this will make the situation even

worse), but they ask themselves questions like: What can I learn from this? How can I make this better? And then they

focus on the positive, rather than on the negative. They always seem to see the glass half full, no matter what

happens to them.

3. Forgiveness vs. Unforgiveness

Really happy people know that it’s not healthy to hold on to anger. They choose to forgive and forget, understanding that

forgiveness is  a gift they give to themselves first and foremost.

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who

gets burned.” ~ Buddha

4. Trust vs. Doubt

They trust themselves and they trust the people around them. Whether they are talking to the cleaning lady or the C.E.O.

of a billion-dollar company, somehow they always seem make the person they are interacting with feel that there is

something unique and special about them. They understand that beliefs are self-fulfilling prophecies.  

Because of that, they make sure to treat everyone with love, dignity and respect, and make no distinction between age,

sex, social status, color, religion or race. These are the great men that

Mark Twain was talking about: “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions.

Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”

5. Meaning vs. Ambition

They do the things they do because of the meaning it brings into their lives and because it gives their lives a sense of

purpose.  They understand that “Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life” as Wayne Dyer

says.  And they care more about living a life full of meaning than what, in our modern society we would call, living a

successful life. The irony here is that most of the time they get both success and meaning because they choose to

focus on doing the things they love the most and they always pursue their heart‘s desires. They are not motivated by

money; they want to make a difference in the lives of those around them and in the world. “Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked. In

a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can

only respond by being responsible.” ~ Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

6. Praising vs. Criticizing

Happy people would probably agree with Carl’s Jung theory on resistance: “What you resist not only persists, but will

grow in size.”  They don’t criticize the absence of the behavior they want to reinforce, rather, they know by

praising the person and the behavior they wish to reinforce (even if it’s not often), they will actually encourage the

positive behavior. When a parent wants to make sure their 7 year old boy will learn to always put the toys back in the box after he’s done playing with them, they make sure not to focus on the many times the child didn’t do it, criticizing him and his

behavior, but every time the little boy does put the toys back, the parent praises him and his behavior and that is

exactly how they reinforce the positive behavior, and in the end get the wanted results.

7. Challenges vs. Problems

Happy people will see problems as challenges, as opportunities to explore new ways of doing things,

expressing their gratitude for them, understanding that underneath them all lay many opportunities that will allow

them to expand and to grow.

8. Selflessness vs. Selfishness

They do what they do not for themselves, but for the good of others, making sure that they bring meaning, empowerment and

happiness to the lives of many. They look for ways to give and to share the best of themselves with the world and to

make other people happy. “Before giving, the mind of the giver is happy; while

giving, the mind of the giver is made peaceful; and having given, the mind of the giver is uplifted.” ~ Buddha

9. Abundance vs. Lack/ Poverty 

They have an abundant mindset, living a balanced life, achieving abundance in all areas of life.

10. Dreaming Big vs. Being Realistic 

These people don’t really care about being realistic. They love and dare to dream big, they always listen to their

heart and intuition and the greatness of their accomplishments scares many of us.

“Dream no small dreams for they have no power to move the

hearts of men.” ~ Goethe

11. Kindness vs. Cruelty

They are kind to themselves and others and they understand

the power of self-love, self-forgiveness and self-acceptance.

12. Gratitude vs. Ingratitude

No matter where they look, no matter where they are or who they are with, they have the capacity to see beauty where

most of us would only see ugliness, opportunities where most of us would only see struggles, abundance where most of us

would only see lack and they express their gratitude for all of it.

13. Presence/ Engagement vs. Disengagement 

They know how to live in the present moment, appreciating what they have and where they are, while still dreaming big

dreams about the future. “When you are present, you can allow the mind to be as it is

without getting entangled in it. The mind in itself is a wonderful tool. Dysfunction sets in when you seek yourself

in it and mistake it for who you are.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

14. Positivity vs. Negativity

No matter what happens to them, they always keep a positive perspective on everything and by doing so, they tend

irritate a lot of negative and “realistic” people.

15. Taking Responsibility vs. Blaming 

They take full ownership over their lives and they rarely use excuses. Happy people understand that the moment you

choose to blame some outside force for whatever is happening to you, you are in fact giving all your power away. They

choose to keep their power and take responsibility for everything that happens to them.

Article courtesy of  purposefairy.com

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