Jul 4 2017 20 Mantras That Will Adjust Your Attitude When You Cant Adjust Anything Else Part 3

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Become independent of negative attitudes with these last 10 mantras!

11. Happiness and a negative mindset can’t co-exist.  Those who move forward with a positive attitude will find that things always work out better.

12. Truth be told, we either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong.  In the end, the amount of work is the same.

13. When you really pay attention, everyone and everything is your teacher.  Take time to observe and listen.  Take time to learn something new.

14. We learn the way on the way.  Let go of everything from the past that does not serve you, and just be grateful it brought you to where you are now – to this new beginning.

15. Think of all the hundreds of thousands of steps and missteps and chances and coincidences that have brought you here.  In a way it feels like the biggest miracle in the world, doesn’t it?

16. The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you accept that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.

17. Letting go isn’t about having the ability to forget the past; it’s about having the wisdom and strength to embrace the present.

18. Stepping onto a brand new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation that no longer fits, or no longer exists.

19. Sometimes you simply have to stop fretting, wondering, and doubting.  Have faith that things will work out, maybe not how you planned, but just how it’s meant to be.

20. Head up, heart open.  To better days approaching!

The Most Practical Side of These Mantras: Healthy Coping

Above all, the mantras in this post collectively serve as a healthy coping mechanism for life’s inevitable disappointments.  And understanding how to cope in a healthy way is an invaluable skill.

How you cope can easily be the difference between living a good life and living a sick one.  If you choose unhealthy coping mechanisms like avoidance or denial, for example, you can quickly turn a tough situation into a tragic one.  And sadly, this is a common mistake many people make.

When you find yourself facing a disheartening reality, your first reaction might be to deny the situation, or to avoid dealing with it altogether.  But by doing so you’re inadvertently holding on even tighter to the pain that you wish to let go of – you’re, in effect, sealing it up inside you.

Let’s imagine someone close to you has grown ill, and supporting this person through his or her illness is incredibly painful.  You might not want to deal with the pain, so you cope by avoiding it, by finding ways to numb yourself with alcohol and unhealthy eating.  And consequently, you grow physically ill too while the pain continues to fester inside you.

Obviously, that’s not good.

If you notice yourself doing something similar, it’s time to pause, admit to yourself that you’re coping by avoiding, and then shift your focus to a healthier coping mechanism, like using the mantras in this post to help you open your mind.

When you face struggles with an attitude of openness – open to the painful feelings and emotions you have – you find out that it’s not comfortable, but you can still be fine and you can still step forward.  Openness means you don’t instantly decide that you know this is only a horrible experience – it means you decide that you don’t really know what the next step will be like, and you’d like to understand the whole truth of the matter.  It’s a learning stance, instead of one that assumes the worst.

The General Benefits of Healthy Coping

Coping certainly isn’t an easy practice, and I’m not suggesting that it is.  What I am suggesting is that it’s worth your while.  With practice, healthy coping allows you to find better ways of managing life’s continuous stream of unexpected and uncontrollable circumstances.  For example…

  • A task is harder than you expected it to be — Instead of running from a daunting and overwhelming task, you can accept it and see what it’s like to feel uncomfortable and overwhelmed, and still take action anyway.  Writing a book, for example, is daunting and overwhelming, but you can still write one even with those feelings rolling through you. 

  • An interaction with someone you love angers or frustrates you— Instead of lashing out at a loved one when you’re upset with them, you can sit quietly with your difficult feelings and just be open to what it’s like to feel them.  And then, once you’ve had a moment to breathe, you can see what it’s like to deal compassionately with someone you love who you’re also upset with.  To try to understand them instead of just judging them at their worst.

  • Unhealthy cravings overwhelm you out of nowhere — You may be inclined to indulge in unhealthy cravings like alcohol and sweets for comfort when you’re feeling stressed out.  But you can sit with these feelings and be open to them instead, and then gradually build positive daily rituals for coping in healthier ways – taking walks, meditating, talking with someone about your feelings, journaling, reviewing the relevant mantras provided in this post, etc. 

  • You are forced to deal with a loved one’s death — When someone you love passes away, the grief and sense of loss can seem overwhelming.  And at that point, it’s incredibly easy to give in to unhealthy, “quick-fix” ways of alleviating the pain.  But you have to force yourself to do the opposite – to give yourself compassion, to sit with the powerfully difficult thoughts and feelings you have, and to open your mind to what lies ahead.  Gradually it becomes evident that death isn’t just an ending, but also a beginning.  Because while you have lost someone special, this ending, like all losses, is a moment of reinvention.  Although sad, their passing forces you to reinvent your life, and in this reinvention is an opportunity to experience beauty in new, unseen ways and places.

And of course, we’ve merely just scratched the surface of an endless pool of possibilities for healthy coping.  The key thing to understand is that by learning to cope in healthier ways, you will find that you can better handle anything life throws your way, and come out stronger, and oftentimes even happier, than you were before.

In the end, the world is as you are inside.  What you think, you see, and you ultimately become.  So gather and choose your thoughts wisely…

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