Feb 19 2016 Sometimes Life Is Harder Than It Needs To Be

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Busyness… is an illness.

On a chilly January morning just inside the entryway to a Washington DC subway station, a young man took his violin out of its case and brought it up to his shoulder.  He was dressed in regular clothes – just jeans and a t-shirt.  And although he had a face many women found attractive, on this particular morning it was mostly obscured by a dark baseball cap and shaggy brown hair.

After plucking the strings for a couple minutes to tune his instrument, he reached into his pocket and pulled out a few dollar bills, which he tossed into the violin case in front of him, with the hopes that a few passers-by would do the same.  It was a very active morning in the subway station as the young man began to play.

J. Bell

Thousands of people were busy hurrying to work, school, or wherever they were headed.  Trains were coming and going – the morning rush was in full swing.  Yet through all the busyness, the incredible sound of this young man’s violin filled the subway station.

It was impossible to ignore.

Or was it?

Over the course of 43 minutes, more than 1,000 people walked through the doors of the subway entrance where Joshua Bell was playing.  And if he was any other street performer, perhaps it would have been insignificant that he earned the attention of just a few people and just a small handful of change.

But Joshua Bell wasn’t just any street performer.  He was… and is… possibly the world’s most renowned violinist.  And he was playing one of the most difficult classical masterpieces ever composed.  And that masterpiece was being played on a $3,000,000 (yes, million) violin that emitted one of the most pure, eloquent sounds in the world.

Yet almost nobody noticed… Why?

Because he didn’t look like anyone special.

And because everyone was way too busy hurrying to pause and notice the music.

J. Bell

Busyness is an Illness

Think about it…

“I’m busy!”

How often is that your excuse?

It used to be my excuse every single day.  Like those 1,000 people who ran past Joshua Bell’s music without a moment to spare, my schedule used to leave me zero time for unplanned presence and awareness.

And I was proud of my busyness.  I wore it like a badge!

I wanted to remind everyone how tough I had it.  I wanted everyone to know how driving from place to place to place in my comfortable Honda was a huge pain in the butt.  Not to mention how Angel and I would have to juggle business and family.  Helping our course students and readers, and then immediately rushing out to buy and wrap birthday gifts?  Don’t even get me started!  And then only having an hour to get our son fed and bathed before bed each night, so we could get him down and prepare to do it all over again…

“Didn’t you hear me?  I am super busy, everybody!  Keep this in mind, and have mercy on me!  Please!”

Yes, that’s exactly what I used to want you to know about me….

But not anymore.

Now, I actually pause to hear the music.  And I’m proud of it.

Here’s the thing:  Busyness is NOT a badge of honor.  There’s zero honor at all in endless busyness.

Busyness is just an illness that makes everything harder than it has to be.

Busy for the Sake of Busy

If we’re not below the poverty line, juggling three jobs at once just to put food on the table, then our busyness is self-inflicted 98% of the time (the exception being that 2% of the time that a random series of incredibly difficult life events blindsides us).

I finally got a handle on my busyness when I studied it long enough to realize that, yes… my busyness was within my control.  In fact, most of the time I actually created hurry and worry where none really existed.  On any normal weekday, you would have found me running around begging family, business associates, and basically everyone nearby to move faster…

“If you don’t finish eating, we’re going to be late!”

“If we don’t get this task done in the next hour… we’re never going to hit our target!”

The funny thing is, whether I provoked everyone around me to move faster or not, we always collectively moved at about the same pace anyway.  But when I provoked them, everyone (including myself) was unhappier.

It became crystal clear to me that nearly all of my busyness was an overreaction in my head.  I was manufacturing it in hopes that it would create urgency in others, and somehow make my life easier.  Instead, it did the exact opposite – my busyness only created anxiety, bitterness and complexity.  And even on days when the busyness was real (lots of things to do), it was typically due to an overbooked schedule I had personally created.

All of this got me thinking:

Why in the world am I voluntarily making my life harder, busier and unhappier than it has to be?

The Reason and Answer for Needless Busyness

Sadly, a big part of the reason we fill our lives with needless busyness has to do with the always-plugged-in, always-connected, always-sharing, always-comparing society we live in.

We default to defining ourselves based on where we are and what we have in relation to everyone else.

If we don’t have a “better” career, house, car, or pair of shoes, we feel inferior.  And the only way we can possibly do better, is to be busierdoing… whatever!  After all, we are what we do, right?  Job title, employer… Aren’t these typically the first things we share with strangers we meet at parties?

We fill our Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat feeds, and our calendars, with manufactured busyness to avoid just being exactly who we are, exactly where we are.  In the process, we not only miss out on the serenity and beauty that exists within ourselves, but we also miss out on experiencing that same serenity and beauty in the world around us, because our busyness has buried it with “hurry” and “worry,” and the endless need to be somewhere else, doing something else, as fast as feasibly possible.

Ready for a positive change in your life?

Join me, and let’s wake-up every morning from here on out and mindfully let our needless busyness and stress GO!

Let’s start making every moment less busy and more beneficial.

Let’s start keeping our lives ordered and our schedules under-booked.

Let’s start creating a foundation with a soft place to land, a wide margin for error, and room to think and breathe.

So we can pause to hear the music for a moment, and smile, when the opportunity arises.



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